A special day x
Today is my daughter Bella’s seventh birthday. She was my IVF baby, born after six years of heartache, seven miscarriages and 2 years of no pregnancies (which I am sure was psychological..but it really didn’t help). With her birth on this day all those years ago I finally became a Mummy.
I still carry the scar tissue..infertility is a time I wouldn’t wish on anyone – you beat yourself up for the futility of hoping, nose permanently pressed against the glass, it becomes personal. A retina searing pain that makes you disappear under the burden of inner reflection..the only person to blame being you. Something so simple, so natural…so unachievable.
We literally threw everything we had at it..and we were oh so lucky. The tides finally turned and she arrived..the most beautiful baby I had ever seen..a fairy child. And she remains the most beautiful inside and out child to this day…the rarest and most delicate of gifts. I celebrate.
Laters, Kate x
Happy birthday to Bella and congratulations to you! x
Happy Birthday, Bella! You have the best mum & dad in the world. Have a lovely party and be as beautiful as your gorgeous mummy (^-^)
Your words are so true.
I write from the side of the no-so-lucky ones.
Congratulations for your daughter and for a dream come true.
That fickle finger of fate that decides who can and who can’t..where you walk I feared to tread and I send you all my love. Thank you from a special place for your kind words xxxxx
What an emotional blog, made me well up. Have a wonderful day ALL of you 🎂
Congratulations & many happy returns!
I know what you mean. It took me nine years to get my first daughter. In my first miscarriage I was carrying a dead fotus for 3 weeks inside me . It was discovered by ultrasound in a routine appointment by the doctor. The second miscarriage came 2 years after in a similar way. Years of infertility , several ways to treat it & just as I was about to start with the IVF, I got pregnant. During the pregnacy I had every 2 weeks antibody Gamma 3 infusions in order not to reject the baby. The same 5 years later in my second pregnacy. I thank God for both daughters & my doctor of that time. It is so overwhelming & life changing experience. I feel with you .xxx
I hear you. But for doctors, things could have been very different..I look back and see it as a fork in the path/milestone in my life and it does make me value what I have xxx
Yes motherhood transforms a woman completely, you are reborn in a way too. I was very lucky at that time with my doctor & the health system in Germany at that time ( I’m afraid I have to say is still years ahead from the NHS). I could have also the extremely expensive Gamma3 treatment all that time needed for free. And he was an excellent doctor indeed.
Enjoy your very special day all of you !xxx
This made my heart sing. Thank you for this.
What a beautiful baby and what an amazing present! Being a mum it’s the must precious gift I have ever had in my life! We are so blessed! Happy birthday to beautiful Bella and happy day to you! Xxx
Happy birthday Bella and congratulations to you. We value our children after a painful journey as well.
To the outside world they see the ‘perfect’ family…but you never forget xxx
A very happy birthday to your beautiful little girl Bella. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt post xx
Beautiful post. I am happy for your blessing amidst the unhappy “stuff.” xx
Wow, that’s wonderful! Wishing her a very happy birthday, lots of love and precious moments with you 🙂
Kate, Happy Birthday to Bella, so beautiful name, and thank you for sharing your story !!!
Beautiful photos. So happy for you all. Happy Birthday Bella! Xxx
Bella is God’s opinion that the world should go on… A hug to all of you!
Precious!
I, too shall celebrate today, once I get these tears out of my eyes. So beautiful and lucky and wonderful!
Thank you luv xxx
Wow! Thank you for sharing this with us all. We all take so much for granted and often forget the grief and pain that others endure to become parents. Happy happy happy day indeed! Xx
A good friend recently gave birth to a beautiful little boy after much the same experience. Much joy and happiness to you and your family as you celebrate Bella’s 7th birthday!
As another one from the side of the-not-so-lucky ones, who grew to accept that motherhood is not for everyone, I hear you loud and clear! Here’s to happy times!
You are one incredible woman..courageous, strong with shoulders to carry the world xxxxxxx
Oh my, I hadn’t thought of me that way, but now that you mention it…. I’ll keep coming back here whenever I need some moral boosting 🙂 Big hug xxxx
Always here with armfuls of admiration! xxxxxxx
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Congratulations to the daughter and the mummy! Celebrate this day and may your lives always be HAPPY 🙂
A Very Happy Birthday to Bella! How precious – I was so moved by your post. I had one miscarriage and the heartache and grief is still with me even after a dozen years, you just learn to carry on. So I truly cannot imagine how hard your journey was and I’m so happy that yours had a such a joyful ending.
Congratulations! After 3 miscarriages, we decided to leave it alone and forgo children. I commend you for pushing through and choosing another path. Yes, the scars surface once in awhile, but that is life. Lovely photos.
I can understand. We were living abroad for the first three..when we moved back to the UK I thought things would be different and I would have the help of the medical profession, I think that broke things up for us. The hardest part was going ahead with the IVF knowing my history. We went to every miscarriage doctor we could find..and finally they diagnosed ‘sticky blood’..I was on heparin, steroids and aspirin..but it worked..although we went through IVF again a year later, it worked again..twins..took all the drugs..then I miscarried..it was one of my lowest points ever. Incredibly I fell pregnant naturally the following month..didn’t get the drugs till 5 weeks..but I did get my son Charlie..a true miracle if ever there was one. There is no rhyme or reason but the horror of miscarriage does still haunt my dreams xxxxxxxxx
Beautiful!!! The joy these little ones bring and the struggle you had to get her must make her even more precious. Happy birthday Bella xx
Beautiful baby, beautiful story, and beautiful photos! Cheers to you and Bella!
Congratulations! I’m currently trying to have a baby and it’s taking more time than I’d expected. It’s such an intense process.
It is so hard. I found the experience very isolating with people not knowing what to say or saying the wrong things…where I found huge solace was on internet support boards – you were anonymous, you could rant, you were with people who just ‘knew’ and the source of information was better than the docs because these girls had experienced everything themselves. It was invaluable. ivillage used to be good – don’t know if it is now and google ‘stirrup queen’..the best infertility resource on the web. I send you love and hope xxxxx
Happy birthday to all of you. Great post. Sometimes we just need to hear that there are other out there with the same feelings. There is hope.
I think we all need some hope sometimes xxxxxx
Beautiful! Happy birthday, Bella
Happy Birthday Bella! Mommy is blessed woman!
I’m very happy for you, and your family! 🙂
Happy birthday, Bella!
I hope you had a very lovely day of celebrations!! Like you Kate, we are blessed with only one child and he makes me laugh every day – I look at him sometimes and cannot comprehend how scrumptious he is! Kxx
A beautiful story and a lovely girl. Thanks for telling it so well.
“Joyeux Anniversaire”, beautiful Bella ! “7” is quite a magical and mystical number, and it took so long to “produce” her, no wonder she’s such a marvellous kid (like her mother !). XXXXXXX
This is a beautiful story! Happy Birthday Bella!
Happy belated birthday to Bella! And bravo for your strength. I went through only one cycle of IVF and felt totally powerless. Big hugs xo
What a lovely story. Have a happy life together.
Happy birthday to your beautiful daughter- what a long journey for you. I’m so glad it ended with your Bella! xo
That was really beautiful Kate! It brought tears to into my eyes, when the e-mail arrived in my mailbox. I really admire you for trying for this long. I am not sure if I could do the same as I do not feel the need to have one yet and simply keep passing out even during doctor’s appointments and birth talks my friends have. So well done and I wish you, you little girl and you husband all the best. Kat xx
Beautiful story, it makes me so grateful for what I have! Happy birthday Bella!
Happy Birthday to Bella. All the best for you all : )
So happy for you and your family. Happy birthday Bella! What a beautiful baby and lovely pics. X
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I’m so glad your difficult story had a beautiful outcome!
Magical 🙂